Disney
said that snow white could live twice after eating poisonous apple because
seven dwarfs took care after. Luckily, prince of charming suddenly came by and
help her waking up from the long day-dreaming, bringing to the happily ever
after life story.
But
life is not as simple as the story of eternal happiness. It cannot be reflected
(even any part of it) as magical as Disney’s theatrical story. It was harsh,
dramatic, and full of conflict. It was complicated, where you should
strategically decide the best character in order to find the most suitable
circle you'd prefer.
Prejudice's Framework
I’ve
been living long-enough to identify people’s perception toward us. They usually
put prejudice from the simple assumption and elaborate further after digging in
depth into. They’re assessing subject according to their first impression, the
way they talk, fashion they prefer, brand of accessories, knowledgeability, and
many more. It holds a critical role to represent your degree of education,
social status, even to the political orientation.
For
instance, by the time that we’re confronting presidential election nationally,
people become more offensive of claiming their preference is the best while the
rest potentially bringing wracking-havoc. Many of people updating their status,
saying that his candidate is the best one, and humiliating on the opponent
side. Delivering the list of sensible reason although some of those are
questionable. They built an authentic assumption as the basis of preference.
Interestingly, it looks like a doctrine. They’ve been exposed to many things
and turns out, any minor symbol could lead to hatred, anger, or boredom from
the opponent. This paradigm unconsciously was built as an argument of disliking
the other sides.
Celeste
Headlee said that we are living in the bizarre world. Where every conversation
has the potential to devolve into an argument. Where even the most trivial
issue have someone fighting both passionately for it and against it. Many
people have uncovered the truth on how effective conversation could potentially
resolve problems. Some of the people have said the power of
charisma to handle that subject (read The Charisma Myth). Regardless of these
abovementioned topics, I'm sounding different perspective about the pattern of
role model to the journey until they reach their true essence of
position.
Adequate
Response
We're
living in the era where we do not listening each other. As our world full of
complicated issues around where we're facing conflicts everywhere, we often get
sway on trivial issues which blows our argument easily. And among these flows
of news, somewhat we miss the point to be an intelligent audience. Should some
issue emerge for long-enough period which basically a shallow analysis based on
vague data, this are occurred due to no one exist to clarify the thing.
Thus, the continuity happens and no one would be willing to reveal the actual
condition. Or else, we lost someone whose the voice would be heard because of
the rational reason and objective argument. Instead of provoking the more
tendency to specific side, this person represents the beauty beyond the bad
assumption which most of the people have been argued.
Communication
requires balance between understanding and proposing, and somewhere we lost the
balance along the way. While people more likely proposing on something and
turns out, becoming more offensive on offering their idea, somewhat... it isn't
normal. Or else, when you become more understanding, turns out you become more
passive on accepting any kind of circumstances to the point where you could less
critical to provoke the weakness within specific case.
As
I began the new stage of life years ago to the life where expert stands on,
confront numbers of different loop with different scheme and character around,
I found difficulties to bridge many conversation on the scale of fingertip with
our mobile screen. And amongst those diverse connections, I rarely saw people
around me taking concern on this communication gap issue. Firstly because it is
not a big deal for them. They can handle the gap to have comfortable enough
conversation between one acquaintance to another. Secondly, because their loop
are having (more likely) similar pattern -people's preference, type, dream.
Considering the age of 20s as the most formative chapter of our life, we should
learn on this thing to hone our communication skill. Beyond whole of the
marathon of brain to accomplish academic degree, finding a suitable job, pursue
the higher degree of education, or become financially independent, it was the
stage where we decide to take a part as the society in general. To provide a
concrete contribution and provide the upmost benefit to others.
