to Bridge a Communication Gap

Disney said that snow white could live twice after eating poisonous apple because seven dwarfs took care after. Luckily, prince of charming suddenly came by and help her waking up from the long day-dreaming, bringing to the happily ever after life story.

But life is not as simple as the story of eternal happiness. It cannot be reflected (even any part of it) as magical as Disney’s theatrical story. It was harsh, dramatic, and full of conflict. It was complicated, where you should strategically decide the best character in order to find the most suitable circle you'd prefer.

Prejudice's Framework

I’ve been living long-enough to identify people’s perception toward us. They usually put prejudice from the simple assumption and elaborate further after digging in depth into. They’re assessing subject according to their first impression, the way they talk, fashion they prefer, brand of accessories, knowledgeability, and many more. It holds a critical role to represent your degree of education, social status, even to  the political orientation.

For instance, by the time that we’re confronting presidential election nationally, people become more offensive of claiming their preference is the best while the rest potentially bringing wracking-havoc. Many of people updating their status, saying that his candidate is the best one, and humiliating on the opponent side. Delivering the list of sensible reason although some of those are questionable. They built an authentic assumption as the basis of preference. Interestingly, it looks like a doctrine. They’ve been exposed to many things and turns out, any minor symbol could lead to hatred, anger, or boredom from the opponent. This paradigm unconsciously was built as an argument of disliking the other sides. 

Celeste Headlee said that we are living in the bizarre world. Where every conversation has the potential to devolve into an argument. Where even the most trivial issue have someone fighting both passionately for it and against it. Many people have uncovered the truth on how effective conversation could potentially resolve problems. Some of the people have said the power of charisma to handle that subject (read The Charisma Myth). Regardless of these abovementioned topics, I'm sounding different perspective about the pattern of role model to the journey until they reach their true essence of position. 

Adequate Response

We're living in the era where we do not listening each other. As our world full of complicated issues around where we're facing conflicts everywhere, we often get sway on trivial issues which blows our argument easily. And among these flows of news, somewhat we miss the point to be an intelligent audience. Should some issue emerge for long-enough period which basically a shallow analysis based on vague data, this are occurred due to no one exist to clarify the thing. Thus, the continuity happens and no one would be willing to reveal the actual condition. Or else, we lost someone whose the voice would be heard because of the rational reason and objective argument. Instead of provoking the more tendency to specific side, this person represents the beauty beyond the bad assumption which most of the people have been argued.

Communication requires balance between understanding and proposing, and somewhere we lost the balance along the way. While people more likely proposing on something and turns out, becoming more offensive on offering their idea, somewhat... it isn't normal. Or else, when you become more understanding, turns out you become more passive on accepting any kind of circumstances to the point where you could less critical to provoke the weakness within specific case.

As I began the new stage of life years ago to the life where expert stands on, confront numbers of different loop with different scheme and character around, I found difficulties to bridge many conversation on the scale of fingertip with our mobile screen. And amongst those diverse connections, I rarely saw people around me taking concern on this communication gap issue. Firstly because it is not a big deal for them. They can handle the gap to have comfortable enough conversation between one acquaintance to another. Secondly, because their loop are having (more likely) similar pattern -people's preference, type, dream.

Considering the age of 20s as the most formative chapter of our life, we should learn on this thing to hone our communication skill. Beyond whole of the marathon of brain to accomplish academic degree, finding a suitable job, pursue the higher degree of education, or become financially independent, it was the stage where we decide to take a part as the society in general. To provide a concrete contribution and provide the upmost benefit to others.